How long have you two been together? And of course how long have you two broken up?
If your break up is still relatively fresh in your mind, of course you are still in love with your ex-boyfriend.
Your feelings are not going to just go away like that from one day to the next just because you two are no longer together.
Of course, if you suspect or know for a fact that he is moving on, it can hurt and I do understand that.
But it's time for you to dry your tears and to try to feel better about yourself and the situation.
Think about it - if he is moving on
1. He definitely not sitting around thinking about you and worrying about what you are doing.
That's not to say that he doesn't remember you or give you a passing thought. It just means that for most of the day, he is not wrapped up in thoughts of you. It's not a good idea for you to be wrapped up in thoughts of him either.
2. Have you decided what it is that you want to do? Do you want to move on as well or do you want him back?
For you to do either of the above, you have to know for sure what you want to do and then put a plan in place to achieve one or the other.
In other words, the fact that you say "I'm still in love with my ex", what does that mean?
Are you just making a statement or an observation or do you want to do something with it?
What are you afraid of? What are you really hoping for?
If you can't think through clearly what it is that you want or if you cannot articulate your feelings properly, then take a pen and piece of paper and write them down.
How does you being in love with your ex but not being able to be with him make you feel?
Then decide what situation would you rather be in?
Would you rather move on as well and try to get over him?
If so then, write down what life would be like if you didn't think about him.
What would you be doing? Where would you be going? Who would you be doing these things with? How would you feel?
Make sure that you describe a perfect day without any thought of him whatsoever, a day when you are blissfully happy and content!
Now do the very same process if you would like to get back together with your ex - but you have got to be sure this is what you want!
Write down what life would be like if you got back together with him!
Describe a perfect day with him! Where would you two be? How would you feel if you were with him?
Happy, contented?
Basking in the fact he is is completely in love with and has eyes only for you. He leans over and gives you a soft kiss on the lips and tells you how much he loves you!
And you a ecstatic that you too are in love with him. Feel the love and the contentment.
So which will it be? What makes you feel happy?
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