So you have completed one full, very difficult, month of no contact and you still have the burning desire to get back in touch with your ex girlfriend? Then it's very important you contact her the right way. If you don't then you will have ruined all your hard work from the one month of no contact phase. You did complete the one month no contact phase, right? Yes? Excellent.
I would be really surprised if she hasn't contacted you yet. Usually after going no contact for a month the woman starts to really miss her ex boyfriend and will most likely contact him. From my previous experience this is definitely true! I will, however, write this article assuming you have completed one month of no contact and she has not contacted you yet.
Did you complete the other steps I highly recommend? Have you eliminated your negative emotions? Have you worked out why the relationship ended? Have you been working on making your life more interesting and fulfilling? If not, then you really need to go take care of these three things. When you initiate contact with your ex girlfriend you need to be in the right state of mind. You can say the right things but if you aren't in the right state of mind then she WILL see right through that and find your words weak and manipulative. Before you contact her make sure you are coming from the right emotional state. It's critical!
Emotional state in check, you are now ready to learn how to contact your ex. At this point you should focus on just becoming friends with her. You should not be initiating contact with her with the mindset of 'you need her back'. I recommend just sending a text message because it's very low commitment. If you call her and for some reason she doesn't answer it will drive you crazy and only bad things will follow. So send a text, your text should be positive, light hearted and contain some value for her.
An example of a bad text message "Oh god baby I missed you so much. This month of no contact has been so difficult for me. I NEED you XXxxX". Why is this message bad? Well it shows that you are needy, insecure and you have nothing really going for you in your life. This message will just turn her off you completely. She will just feel sorry for you but will have no feelings of attraction.
A better message "Hey NAME, my friend just told me about a yoga class near 123 Sesame Street. It's free for beginners. You should check it out my friend says it's awesome!" Why is this a better message? If she was talking about learning yoga but couldn't find a place then you have given her some value and you have conveyed that you are a sociable guy because you have friends. The message is also positive. Your ex may also start thinking "Which of his friends goes to yoga class?" and as it's mostly women who go to yoga class this will create some intrigue or mystery in your ex girlfriends mind.
A quick summary: Make sure that you wait one full month before contacting your ex and that when you contact her, send her message that is aimed at her interests and conveys that you are fun, sociable and a happy guy.
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