Getting dumped is no fun. Nobody likes the way it feels and sometimes people are blindsided by it. They blame themselves wondering what it was they did wrong. By looking back at the relationship they had, there probably were signals that they just didn't want to see.
Signals can come in many forms. It can be the fact that the two of you stopped communicating. How much time every day did you actually talk to each other? I don't mean idle words that neither of you are listening to, but real conversation? It probably became less and less as time went on.
Did you stop dating each other? Just because two people become a couple doesn't mean it's time to stop enjoying a night out together alone and not always with friends.
Have you stopped trying to look your best for each other? After work do you throw on a tee shirt and sweats? I know everyone has a right to be comfortable, but maybe you don't look so attractive to him anymore. Of course, this information isn't meant to pick on women at all. Many men don't do anything to make themselves look appealing either, but this particular article is for women and how to get their ex back.
Simply put, men are visual creatures that don't like drama. If they could have the hottest woman on the planet that only spoke about how wonderful he was, he would probably be the happiest guy on earth! Seriously though, men think in black and white and don't show much emotion. What a man does like, is a woman that will stroke his ego (even if he doesn't deserve it) and make him feel like he is her protector.
Actually to contrary belief, men really do like women, and not just behind closed doors. The kind of woman they enjoy spending time with are women that are low maintenance, fun, has a great, happy personality, doesn't mind rough housing and getting dirty once in a while, and one that can throw back a beer with the guys. They also love a woman that enjoys physical activities and sports. She really doesn't have to be gorgeous either because that may cause too much competition from other men.
For a woman to hold her man's attention and have him never wanting to be with anyone but her, she will need to stay on top of her game. That doesn't mean to do anything sneaky or immoral, it just means being one step ahead of your guy. You can appear like you have a secret, or just seem a tiny bit aloof, and your man will stay close to your side. He'll want to know what's going on even if there isn't anything going on at all. The person (you) that seems the least interested (even though you are madly in love with him) always controls the relationship. Always!
Other than being in control (even though he doesn't realize it), you need to genuinely be a nice person! Be that girl you were when you met your guy. There was something about you that he fell in love with! Be fun and flirt with him. Look sexy for him. Give him compliments and you will get them back. This isn't a one way street. Under normal circumstances, anyone who is nice, happy and respectful to another person will get the same treatment in return.
Stop getting dumped right now and get your boyfriend back. You can have a great relationship together by utilizing a few simple rules that will make you irresistible to him!
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