So you want to get your ex boyfriend back, and you want to do it yesterday! Why do people want their ex back the most AFTER they've gone? Who initiated the breakup? If he did, it makes a little more sense to want him back than if you broke up with him.
The only way you'll ever get him back is by being the woman he wants and can't live without. How are you going to go about being that woman? If you don't know the real reason for the breakup or what he really wants, you're hanging on a limb that's ready to break! Without any information, you're chances of reconciliation are doomed. Is there any way to have a civil discussion with him about the cause of the breakup? Don't ask or plead to get back together at all. Just talk honestly about the actual reason in his mind for wanting to end things.
With the information you need, you can start to implement a way to reunite with your man, unless the breakup was a deal breaker. If that's the case, you probably wouldn't want to be with him anyway.
If you and your ex had a long term relationship, your chances at a successful reunion are better. Most couples that have a good foundation already established like, friends in common, close family ties, they work together or lived together will do better at giving it another try.
Maybe the problem is something that can easily be corrected with a little tweaking.
He says you don't pay much attention to him anymore. You don't compliment him. You nag too much. You aren't fun anymore. You aren't flirtatious and you don't dress sexy for him. Life has become boring with you! WOW, and you thought you were ok! The real truth is you both behave the same way. He isn't doing anything special for you either. It's the ho-hum of everyday life. The honeymoon stage is over and now everyday life (as boring as it may be) has kicked in and he says you're to blame.
In reality, everyone goes through everyday life with jobs and responsibilities to deal with. Can you improve on your attitude and spark his interest in you again? Sure you can! Just be the woman he wants and you'll do fine.
Be a strong woman that has self-confidence. Be happy and playful. Tell him he looks nice and that you are attracted to him. Improve your appearance so he is checking you out too. Don't be a nag or a downer. Have fun together and begin dating each other again. Be romantic. By setting aside at least one day or evening a week to focus on each other, you'll be able to rekindle that romance you used to have. Treat each other with respect and courtesy. Everyone wants to be respected!
Don't live together, even if you did in the past. Until all parties have matured enough to realize that the honeymoon stage cannot be maintained indefinitely, you shouldn't live together. Regain some of your mystery.
People that couple up and move in together too soon are going to see every side of you. They will see the good, the bad, and definitely the ugly! I don't recommend couples living together until they are at least engaged.
You can get your ex boyfriend back and be happy again. Keep a little distance between you, date at least once a week, and hold on to your mystery. That will keep him wanting you more than ever!
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